The Noobie's 5As to Relationships
Relationships can be complex, be they the relationships between parent and child, siblings, friends and lovers.
A variety of methods exist to manage these relationships. However, there is no universally agreed set of methods that one ought to follow. As it is often with human relationships, a few principles guide and govern these them, and it is up to one to interpret and apply accordingly to the problems arising from conflicts within relationships.
The aim of this entry is not to cover any of these methods, though the discussion may delve into certain relationship management principles. Though so, I will not be highlighting them explicitly. I leave the interpretation to the reader.
We are all familiar with the series of books, The Complete Idiot's Guide to ______. A simple title that conveys the notion of providing the reader with an introduction and sometimes in-depth content without the assumption that the reader has any pre-existing knowledge on the issue or topic at hand. Hence, the "complete idiot's."
My version of this series is The Noobie's 5As to Relationships. This is likely to be a one-off entry unless I can find more things to write about relationships. The scope of the topic is limited to relationships of the amore sense.
The 5As are:
Acquaintance
Attention
Attraction
Affection
Amore
The definition for each A is as follows:
Acquaintance - everybody starts off as acquaintances that gradually move on the the "friends" stage. Acquaintances are pretty much recognizable, and it is likely that the reader has some acquaintances as well. Notable signs are hi-byes, messages that concern work and formal matters that others, and the person you don't really talk to (or have nothing much to talk about) on MSN.
Attention - Beyond the "friends" stage is the person who catches your attention. It may be due to appearance, behavior, thinking - whatever. Point is, one has so many friends and acquaintances, and the people who provide (to the reader) some form of stimulus would likely attract the reader's attention.
Attraction - The attention and stimuli transform into a "pull" force that is denoted by the attraction stage. One starts thinking how this form of attraction can be imposed on the target; that is, what the person should do to attract the target.
Affection - At this point, conversations, messages and calls become more frequent and with heightened intimacy. Pet names may be given at this point, and concerns move beyond work to levels that are on a very personal basis. For example, showing concern on one's daily life, keeping detailed tracks on it, et cetera.
Amore - This stage occurs when the level of affection from both parties have culminated to the point of explosion. It is as though if the person and the target is not termed a couple, termed lovers, that it becomes unbearable to either side. To relieve themselves of this stigma, they move towards the amore stage.
Frankly, there is no indication as to how each stage would last. However, there are methods available to progress from one stage to the next, just as there are methods to drop back a level (or worse, many levels). So far, my rather limited experience in this area does not tell me the exact approach to determining how each stage would last. Methods-wise, I do have but this is beyond the scope of our discussion.
That would perhaps serve as fodder for my next entry sometime later, probably 2008.
End of entry
PS The idea for this entry came from a discussion with my tuition kids this afternoon, and the thought about the 5As (originally 4, without "Attention") came to me just naturally. This is very much due to the fact that I crap a lot, and generate plenty of BS. But I thought these 5As do make some sense? I invite the reader to share their interpretations of relationships with me.
A variety of methods exist to manage these relationships. However, there is no universally agreed set of methods that one ought to follow. As it is often with human relationships, a few principles guide and govern these them, and it is up to one to interpret and apply accordingly to the problems arising from conflicts within relationships.
The aim of this entry is not to cover any of these methods, though the discussion may delve into certain relationship management principles. Though so, I will not be highlighting them explicitly. I leave the interpretation to the reader.
We are all familiar with the series of books, The Complete Idiot's Guide to ______. A simple title that conveys the notion of providing the reader with an introduction and sometimes in-depth content without the assumption that the reader has any pre-existing knowledge on the issue or topic at hand. Hence, the "complete idiot's."
My version of this series is The Noobie's 5As to Relationships. This is likely to be a one-off entry unless I can find more things to write about relationships. The scope of the topic is limited to relationships of the amore sense.
The 5As are:
Acquaintance
Attention
Attraction
Affection
Amore
The definition for each A is as follows:
Acquaintance - everybody starts off as acquaintances that gradually move on the the "friends" stage. Acquaintances are pretty much recognizable, and it is likely that the reader has some acquaintances as well. Notable signs are hi-byes, messages that concern work and formal matters that others, and the person you don't really talk to (or have nothing much to talk about) on MSN.
Attention - Beyond the "friends" stage is the person who catches your attention. It may be due to appearance, behavior, thinking - whatever. Point is, one has so many friends and acquaintances, and the people who provide (to the reader) some form of stimulus would likely attract the reader's attention.
Attraction - The attention and stimuli transform into a "pull" force that is denoted by the attraction stage. One starts thinking how this form of attraction can be imposed on the target; that is, what the person should do to attract the target.
Affection - At this point, conversations, messages and calls become more frequent and with heightened intimacy. Pet names may be given at this point, and concerns move beyond work to levels that are on a very personal basis. For example, showing concern on one's daily life, keeping detailed tracks on it, et cetera.
Amore - This stage occurs when the level of affection from both parties have culminated to the point of explosion. It is as though if the person and the target is not termed a couple, termed lovers, that it becomes unbearable to either side. To relieve themselves of this stigma, they move towards the amore stage.
Frankly, there is no indication as to how each stage would last. However, there are methods available to progress from one stage to the next, just as there are methods to drop back a level (or worse, many levels). So far, my rather limited experience in this area does not tell me the exact approach to determining how each stage would last. Methods-wise, I do have but this is beyond the scope of our discussion.
That would perhaps serve as fodder for my next entry sometime later, probably 2008.
End of entry
PS The idea for this entry came from a discussion with my tuition kids this afternoon, and the thought about the 5As (originally 4, without "Attention") came to me just naturally. This is very much due to the fact that I crap a lot, and generate plenty of BS. But I thought these 5As do make some sense? I invite the reader to share their interpretations of relationships with me.
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